021- What the heck is JOMO?

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I just heard this term, JOMO, for the first time a couple months ago (credit goes to my daughter, Abigail, for telling me about this). I think we all can fall into the trap of FOMO, the fear of missing out. Its easy to feel like we need to keep up with the latest trends, events, and social gatherings, fearing that if we don't participate, we'll miss out on something life-changing. Social media makes this FOMO thing even more prevalent.

However, JOMO, the joy of missing out, is just as much of a thing. Speaking as an introvert, who has probably become more introverted since Covid and social distancing were thrown into our lives, I am embracing JOMO more lately. It's hard not to give-in to expectations from those in our lives who think we *should* go to this event or that thing. So, what does JOMO mean?

Google tells me that JOMO means "pleasure derived from living in a quiet or independent way without feeling anxious that one is missing out on exciting or interesting events that may be happening elsewhere." Another definition that I found describes it as "the blissful state of being content with where we are and relishing the moments of solitude and self-care."

Either, and both, of these definitions work for me. When I think of JOMO, I think of it being a mindset that its absolutely okay (and sometimes very necessary) choose to say no to social events, online engagements, and other activities. Your reason for choosing to say no is only your business. Maybe you need a break from people (a very frequent need for me); maybe you enjoy the quiet of being at home because you're gone all day, every day; maybe it's some other reason.

Even if you don't think you need to experience JOMO, what are some benefits of doing this?

1. Reconnecting with yourself and your own thoughts, feelings, and desires. It allows you to slow down and experience a deeper understanding of yourself. Who is the one person that is always there? YOU! I'm learning that as I get older, I need "me time" more often.

2. Reducing stress and anxiety: Constantly being plugged in and overwhelmed by information can lead to burnout and anxiety. JOMO gives us a break from the pressures of the digital world and social world, helping to reduce stress levels and promote overall well-being.

3. Building meaningful relationships: By intentionally choosing how we spend our time, we can focus on authentic connections with the people who truly matter. Quality over quantity becomes the guiding principle in our social interactions. You know what they say about it's better to have 4 quarters than 100 pennies.

4. Cultivating self-care: JOMO helps prioritize self-care activities that nourishes our mind and body. It allows us to participate in hobbies, enjoy leisurely activities, and choose moments of solitude.

The next question we might ask, is how in the heck can I give myself the chance at JOMO.

1. Establish clear boundaries around your time and energy. Learn to say no to activities or engagements that don't align with your values or bring you true joy.

2. Take regular breaks from social media, emails, and other digital distractions. Designate time for digital detoxes and engage in activities that promote relaxation and mindfulness.

3. Practice and engage in activities that promote mindfulness. Focus on being present in the moment and savoring the simple pleasures of life.

4. Make self-care a priority by incorporating activities that bring you joy and rejuvenation into your routine. Whether it's reading a book, taking a bath, or engaging in a creative hobby, make time for yourself.

5. Embrace the idea that missing out on certain events or trends is not a loss but rather an opportunity to create space for more meaningful experiences.

Embracing JOMO allows us to live a more intentional, balanced, and fulfilling life. By setting boundaries, unplugging regularly, and prioritizing self-care, we can rediscover the beauty of the present moment. So, let us embrace JOMO together. This post is written as much for me as for everyone else. Try out one opportunity for JOMO and let me know how it feels. Make yourself proud!

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